文/张婷 Tina Zhang
The Epidemic is connected to us all. This special experience is a meaningful lesson. We should get the lesson right and gain knowledge about life. The returning schedule is delayed due the epidemic. And their life and learning styles are changed. Parents spend more time with children. What can parents do to help children adjust their mental and learning state during the epidemic?
Parents are teachers.
In the 1960s, American psychologist Bandura came up with the concept of observational learning. It means that people can learn a complicated behavior just by observing the behavior of others (role models), and the consequences. It is also known as alternative learning, learning without attempt. In short, children learn parents’ behaviors at home and then behave in similar ways. The influence is more powerful for younger children. Parents' attitudes, emotions and perceptions towards the epidemic will be imperceptibly, directly learned by children. So the first thing for parents to do is to adjust themselves and become good examples for children. That will help children adjust themselves. Here are some suggestions for parents:
1. Maintain emotional stability, avoiding discussing negative information
2. Keep a healthy time table
3. Do exercise regularly
4. Maintain certain amount of learning.
The epidemic is new to us. We never knew about it before and need to learn the knowledge and adjust ourselves constantly. In this process, parents' first reaction is usually to tell their children directly what they should do and what they should not do. It thus ignores and restricts children's ability of active learning and inquiry.
Parents should seize this opportunity for children in senior primary and middle school. Like a family meeting, parents and children can share their knowledge about viruses and how to protect themselves. It would induce children’s initiative, and improve their sense of self-worth and participation. In doing so, children may know more than you about how to adjust their state.
Parents are guides
Children are at the stage of growing an development. They are not yet mature in terms of searching and evaluating information. Parents need to intervene in time to guide their children not be panic with rumors. Guide the children to see the problems scientifically and dialectically, and train their ability of judgment.
At the same time, parents can encourage their children to contact with classmates or friends to maintain good interpersonal support and reduce loneliness.
Helping children adjust their learning state
Due to the epidemic, children need to finish their study independently at home. This is a big challenge for teachers, parents and children. Parents need to devote more time and energy to help their children to make sure they learn effectively at home.
First, help children adjust their sleep schedule. Children are relaxed at home during the holidays. Some of them even have their schedules reversed, which makes it difficult to adapt to the learning phase. Parents need to help children adjust the regular schedule as early as possible.
Second, help children plan their time properly. Studying at home is different from studying at school. Children have more freedom at home. There are no clear boundary between classes and breaks. Parents need to help their children make study plans, such as, following the school schedules, study the subjects, take break and have meals at the scheduled time. It will not be easy on the first day, but try practice it firmly, and make it a habit, then it will be easy.
Finally, be a good playmate. Parents can do some relaxing activities and games with children after their study. Do not let children use electronic devise too much, such as cellphone and TV. They do not have strong self-control. Once they attach to those devises, they might do it for hours, and thus ruin the learning plan. In this aspect, parents and children have to discuss and make rules together.