The importance of good communication between parents and children is necessary beyond doubt. Encouraging children to express their inner thoughts is the first step to successful communication. Not long ago, there were two young students from Living Word Shanghai Bilingual School. They knocked on the door of Mr. Edward Fang’s office and bravely expressed their wish in a tender voice: they wanted a trophy for the speech contest!
In the face of such a request, Mr. Fang did not refuse them. It was dealt with in a special way. "The child has expressed to me very seriously their desire to win the trophy and his outstanding performance has impressed me," he said in a letter to the child’s parents. “Based on encouragement to children and on the principle of fairness and fairness to other children, I replaced the trophy with handmade clay model. But I hoped that the child can do one thing: prepare a speech, entitled "Family of Love". I asked him to finish the speech in front of me in my office after May 1st holiday, and hope he can win the "trophy" he desperately desires with better performance and his own strength.
Through this event, we hope to be able to give positive encouragement to students who have the courage to express their own ideas, so that children can continue to maintain their self-confidence in the process of learning and life in the future. As schools officials and parents ourselves, we should give full respect to children's ideas, in addition to empathy.
On the other hand, when the child is making some seemingly unreasonable demands, should we compromise or refuse? Parents, you should know: rejecting children is an art. Children who are rejected by cold or violent will subconsciously form the perception that “I am not good enough” and “I am not worthy of it”. So we can try to replace "can" instead of "no", and it will be more ingenious. For those requirements that are not easy to meet, parents can try to reason with their children, for example, they need to work for what they want. So the child will be happy with respect shown to them.
Moral education is the foundation of school education and the soul of school work. For international schools, moral education is both a challenge and an opportunity. Mr. Fang’s move undoubtedly sets a good moral example for all parents. Living Word also hopes that more and more such students will emerge. During the school period, students can think actively, have the courage to ask questions and dare to make mistakes. They can use the time to cultivate their independent personality and character. At the same time, parents should give full respect and affirmation to students' personality.